this is Fifi's opinion about this issues *which i agree with* ;
Today's issue would revolve around conflicts..
Some people would argue that a relationship with less arguments or quarrels are healthy relationships.. This however, is simply a myth.. Then again, myth is a matter of unverified facts yes?
But through my perspective as a whole, conflicts and arguments in a relationship are somewhat inevitable.. I hear most people say what is most important in a relationship is HONESTY.. Don't get me wrong, I agree with this claim, yet I disagree with it at the same time..
Yes, honesty IS important in a relationship, however it should not be considered as THE MOST important role that exists in any relationships.. A matter of UNDERSTANDING is as crucial as honesty, because it somehow acts as a "glue" that holds partners in a relationship together..
**NOTE THAT THIS DISCUSSION IS BASED ON ASSUMING THE RELATIONSHIPS ARE MONOGAMOUS**
When two opinions or views clash with one another, conflict rises and creates an argument.. This argument is either handled as a calm discussion or a very "tense discussion" or even the "I'm going to throw this thing at you" discussion.. Nonetheless, this conflict could only be resolved with a certain discussion..
Some people would suggest:
"why should we confront? Why can't we just ignore the problem and not fight?"
To answer this question, I would refer to another scenario in a relationship.. When both partners decides not to confront each other with the problems, it is seemingly similar as to ignoring the facts.. Yet, I dare to say that ignoring facts doesn't mean that they would go away.. At first, it may be easy to handle such things.. But over time, the long-term effect of this is that the unresolved problems that have been stored inside for so long would build up and would gradually explode when a much bigger conflict rises on a latter basis - As if you're a walking time-bomb.. Another factor of this is that the problems will eat you up inside..
In conclusion, when conflicts rise in a relationship, ignoring them and hoping that they would just go away will only make things worse.. By discussing upon the issue in the conflict, both partners will see the two-sides of a coin rather than only one.. Hence, both partners would see a bigger picture and even, as a whole..
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